Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Shopping (aka online dating)

Okay there is no stigma, repeat, there is nothing worng with online dating. I'm not telling you, I'm telling myself.
I keep thinking... Why would good looking single guys who have their life together set up an online profile? Wait! Why would a single good looking gal who has her life together set up a profile? Fair enough.
Well, I did it and went browsing for single potentials like myself. And I started to realize why people do this online thing. I read many statements like, "I don't really go to bars and meet girls" or "There aren't many social events in my area", and "I have been fulfilling my career goals for the last couple years and now I would like to start dating" Okay, legitimate enough.

Of course I would love to walk into a coffee shop and bump into the love of my life. Maybe I'd have spilled my coffee and he would apologize and offer to buy me a new cup. We'd sit and chat for hours about common travel interests, folk music, and our love for the snow... Sigh*

I view this online dating thing as "shopping." I like to shop. Don't we all. I used to be an impulse shopper, yes, I saw it, I bought it, I took it home and tried to wash it, but the buttons fell off, or it shrank in the dryer. Needless to say, I don't wear it anymore.
I'm not an impulse shopper anymore. But I've become quite fond of window shopping lately. And I don't mind browsing, but I read labels more carefully now.

My life in words...

So I grew up like any other kid. Graduated high school and went to college. Presued my degree, got a great job. Live in a cute little house and saving to buy my own one day. I have some awesome friends, saving to go to Hawaii next year, and I love life. Yes life is moving along just fine... oh but wait, isn't there something else I should do... is this it, or is there another chapter?

Okay, okay, yes I'm single. There I said it. It's not like I never dated, I had the high school sweetheart, the college sweetheart, the guy I lived with for 5 years until he said he didn't want to get married.... okay, fine. Then I truly fell in love, and he broke my heart. Wow, that's what that feels like huh? I got off easy until then. So I've healed from that. It took awhile but my heart got patched up by someone who I let fall in love with me, and I broke his heart... crap! I suck at this game.

Okay fast forward, here I am. I've become quite content without a man in my life, which was a huge change from only being happy with a boyfriend. Now it's the opposite, I have to convince myself that having a guy in my life won't necessarily ruin my happiness. Funny how life's experiences change your outlook.

Alright, sorted my self out... now to look for eligible men.
They're around here somewhere...
hello? Anyone?
I forgot to mention that I live in a small town, in a small county. See this whole dating thing woule be easier if I had better resources.
To be continued.......